Most people experience low self-esteem at some point in their lives. It is a natural response to situations such as a job loss or the breakdown of a relationship. For most people this period lasts only an appropriate length of time before they feel better about themselves again.
However, other people don’t bounce back so easily, and may continue to feel bad about themselves long after the traumatic event occurs. Other people may feel as if they have always felt unsure of themselves, or that they are “not good enough”, and this could be linked back to their childhood, when perhaps they weren’t praised or validated, or where parents were ‘unavailable’ to them emotionally.
This can happen with a parent who abused alcohol or drugs, who experienced depression or another chronic illness, or maybe with parents who separated at a vulnerable time for the children in the family.
Signs Of Low Self-esteem
· Feeling tired a lot of the time
· Having little motivation
· Feeling bored with life
· Feeling you don’t have much to look forward to
· Thinking negatively about your abilities
· Thinking negatively about possible opportunities
· Feelings of failure
· Feelings of hopelessness
· Feeling Depressed
HOW CAN WE HELP?
Low self-esteem is quite common today. We are under enormous pressure to ‘perform’, at work, socially, as a parent, and in terms of how we look and how we age. Women today may feel under more pressure than previous generations, as the media bombards us with the concepts of “doing it all” and “having it all”. If low self-esteem is not resolved, sufferers can go on to develop other problems, such as drug or alcohol dependency, depression and feelings of hopelessness.
Our experienced Counsellors at Sandyford Wellness Centre recognise the importance of building self-esteem and offer counselling to help change negative thinking patterns and help you gain a feeling of self- worth and self-belief. We can also support you in addressing depression, and/or any negative behaviour you might be engaging in as a result of how you feel, including drinking too much, regularly using recreational or prescription drugs and disordered eating including binge eating, emotional eating, bulimia or anorexia.
BSc. (hons)Psych, MSc. Counselling Psychology
Mary believes that the common key to a good outcome lies in the strength of the relationship between client and therapist – one that is based on warmth, respect, safety, and collaboration.
Over the years Mary has provided one-to-one counselling for adults both in private practice and with the HSE. She has also worked with an employee assistance programme and alongside the psychology team in St. Colmcille’s Hospital in the cardiac rehab and weight management units. This varied background has allowed Mary to work with a wide range of issues including depression, anxiety, panic attacks, post-traumatic stress, life and work stress, bereavement, low self-esteem, relationship issues, anger management, and childhood abuse/neglect.
To make an appointment with one of our counsellors simply email us via our Contact Form or call us on 01-2063860.
Your first session establishes the exact nature of your problem and explains the process and commitments. If you need help other than self-esteem counselling we will refer you to an appropriate agency/counsellor either within or associated with our centre.